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A Compilation of Upcoming NVC Programs and Offerings (non-DC and non-exhaustive)

As I pulled this list of programs and resources for a recent group of NVC workshop participants, I thought some of you might enjoy reading about these as well. This is in no way an exhaustive list and they came from being named by various participants. Please refer to the Center for Nonviolent Communication for all other programs and google “NVC” with various other keywords as well as regional focus to find more programs in the US and worldwide.

I will work on adding these in a resource section on the website – feel free to email me to send me more links to post!

Mali Parke

Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC)
A note that the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) is currently in full remodeling (as well as the website). We invite you to sign in there and find the multitude of all NVC events and networks available to you.
BayNVC Leadership NVC Program (with Francois)
CA – Jan 2016-Jan 2017
3 8-day retreats (Feb, Jun, Nov)
Empathic Coaching Program by Francois Beausoleil
Living, Integrating and Sharing Compassionate Communication
With Francois Beausoleil, Jeff Brown and Lisa Gottlieb
two day program in Feb 12-13
9 month program with four 2.5 day gatherings in 2016 (April, June, Sept, Dec)
Living The Compassionate Life – Retreat with Robert Gonzales – FEB 19-21, 2016
Philadelphia, PA
The Nonviolent Leadership Retreat For Social Justice
July 24-31
New Depths Program with Susan Skye and Sarah Peyton
NVC, Neuroscience, Interpersonal Neurobiology, Trauma
One year program, three week-long retreats (Oct 2016, Jan 2017, May 2017)
LIFE Program with Robert Gonzales
Two year program with deepening of the ‘Beauty of the Needs’ and
Mediate Your Life
NVC Mediation program with John Kinyon and Ike Lasater
Some stand-alone workshops and year-long program
NVC Summer Camps
See a list of summer camps posted on the CNVC website. More are regularly added as the season approaches. Check it back often!

New series on the foundations of Nonviolent Communication starts Feb 2nd – Early Bird ends Jan 25

Unknown-2Have you been interested in learning more about Nonviolent Communication, also called Collaborative Communication, and how it can impact your relationship to yourself and others?

“I believe the principles and techniques in Nonviolent Communication can literally change the world, but more importantly, they can change the quality of your life with your spouse, your children, your neighbors, your co-workers and everyone else you interact with. I cannot recommend it highly enough.”
– Jack Canfield, author, Chicken Soup for the Soul Series

See more endorsements for NVC by famous authors like Deepak Chopra, Arun Ghandi, Marianne Williamsom, John Gray, Anthony Robbins… 

Intro Evening Only
Tuesday February 2nd , 7:45pm-9:30pm

8- Week Foundation Series (Includes Intro Session 02/02) – *Limited to 16 participants
8 Tuesdays, February 2nd-Mar 22, 7:45pm-9:30pm

In the intro, you will catch a glimpse of how a shift in perspective can enhance greater immediate compassion for yourself and others. Bring a recent situation/issue you will want to work on. It will be a presentation and interactive group session.

In the foundation series, you will learn how to connect with greater clarity and awareness to what motivates you and others behind words and actions, enhance your capacity to voice your true self and empathically guess what may be precious to others, strengthen connection and trust and explore the healing power of empathy on core beliefs and habits.

Here is what a previous participant said about this series:

“I completed an NVC foundation course with Mali this winter and it was simply transformative in both my personal and professional life. Mali’s presentation and grasp of the material, as well as her honesty and ability to teach it in an accessible and meaningful way was superb. I highly recommend this course to anyone looking to create deeper and more meaningful connections in their lives.” K. – Ahimsa 2015 participant

Join us and see how this practice can change your life!

Read more and register here.

Next DC Alliance for Restorative Practices Meeting: Feb 2nd


February 2, 9:00-10:30am

SchoolTalk Office

1875 Connecticut Ave, NW #660

Join from PC, Mac, Linux, iOS or Android:

Or join by phone: +1 646 558 8656 (US Toll); Meeting ID: 212 664 435

Agenda items so far:

– Member updates

– Restorative DC update and opportunities to get involved

– Brainstorm strategies to make DC a restorative city

Please send along anything else you would like to discuss.

See all upcoming events, news announcements, 2015 survey results and 2016 vision for DCARP and other links at the latest DCARP blog post:

Community Dialogues this Fall/Winter

This school year, I am planning to transform the monthly Empathy Café/Salon that I have held for 4-5 years in my own home into a series of Community Circles to discuss racial and social justice, including topics around our youth and children. Whatever your thoughts and experiences are, they are all invited to the table to be heard and shared in community to increase understanding, empathy for all, healing, and powerful transformation. Inviting us to nonviolence and restorative approaches to conflict and differences, our Circles will be based on the peacemaking circle process developed by Kay Pranis and guided/facilitated to support each topic to be approached with care and spaciousness for all voices. Circles will be about 90 minutes to 2 hours length.

The following Circle topics* are examples of what these Community Circles may be. (We will discuss one topic at a time and not necessarily in this order. Your suggestions are invited to further expand the dialogue.) The voices of youth and people of color are very much invited, and the circles will be adpated for general participation.

  • What Do We Know about Race?
  • What Difference Does Race Make?
  • Exploring our Feelings about Race
  • Talking About Structural Inequality: Privilege and Oppression
  • Exploring White Privilege
  • Exploring the Impact of Social Inequality
  • Roots of Youth Violence
  • Impact of Social Hierarchies on Me
  • Witnessing Violence
  • Let’s Talk about Bullying

* These titles and facilitated circle examples are directly taken from Circle Forward: Building a Restorative School Community by Carolyn Boyle-Watson and Kay Pranis.

Request: I am currently seeking a space, preferably in downtown DC, accessible by metro, to accomodate 20-30+ people at no charge on a monthly Friday night (6:30-9:30pm approximately): if you know of any such places and/or your organization is willing to host, maybe even sponsor these circles, contact me. If other facilitators want to support “co-keeping” these circles, email me as well!

I hope to announce the first circle date in October’s newsletter.

Welcoming all suggestions and expressions of interest or support and hoping to co-create the environment for curiosity, empathy and deep listening of all that is alive in us.


Mali Parke

DC NVC Year-Long Program: Version 2.0

Over the years, I have enjoyed learning from various NVC trainers with a diverse depth of experience and areas of focus. I have had the opportunity to meet some of them through traveling. A dream of mine is to make NVC accessible locally (and financially) for us all.

I met Francois Beausoleil through attending the BayNVC North American Leadership Program in 2012. I enjoyed his approach to shifting blame, re-empowering yourself through any and all situations, and living towards greater joy. Lately, he has finished a book and a specific process on living in this “Blame Free State,” as he calls it.

When I heard from many of you a desire to continue your NVC explorations as well, it was with joy and hope that I dreamed and planned with Francois a year-long NVC program in the Washington DC area, which would include other traveling trainers.

In late June, however, we received news of some significant shifts among the offerings, and we decided to postpone the year-long program for a while. We realize that this may have been a disappointment to some of you, and although I have contacted everyone who had expressed an interest in registering,  please email me directly if you wish for more connection on this at

“And,” as we often say in NVC, there is a gift in any challenge.

The gift that we’re unpacking here is to continue connecting to YOUR needs and find out how to best support and serve you locally. With that intention and effort, I am now redirecting some of our initial energy in several upcoming offerings this Fall/Winter, including two series of “Practicing Ahimsa: Nonviolence in our Hearts and Words” , a Level I and (new!) Level II course. And Francois Beausoleil WILL come to DC January 8-10 for a three-day intensive on Living in the Blame Free State!  (Space will be limited to 15, so sign up early!). I will maintain as well the Intensive Retreat for partners, singles, and everyone in between, focusing on “Relating with Choice, Harmony, and Natural Giving in our Relationships.” Dates TBA Spring 2016. Contact me if you are interested.

If you want to support my vision to invite diverse trainers to the Washington DC area in 2016 and 2017, contact me as well!

In continued hope to serve your heart’s needs,
Mali Parke

Passing the Word Along: “What does Nonviolent Communication (NVC) have to contribute to the struggle for racial justice?”

Passing the word along for this free call on NVC and racial justice for anyone wanting to connect on this together over the phone. I experienced both trainers on diversity work and I hope this is of service!

” Freddie Gray. Eric Garner. Michael Brown.

With tragedy after tragedy unfolding in the news, many of us are stunned and heartbroken, at a loss to find a way forward toward creating a world where, truly, everyone’s needs matter.

What does Nonviolent Communication (NVC) have to contribute to the struggle for racial justice?

What light can it shed upon how cultural conditioning keeps us stuck, reinforcing dynamics of oppression, even as we act or speak out against it? And how can NVC inform the approach of well-meaning white people who unintentionally offend in their desire to act as allies against racism?”

Join NVC trainers Edmundo Norte and Marina Smerling for this free, one-hour dialogue Friday May 8th, from 5-6pm Pacific, to support people of color and white folks alike in finding an empathy-based approach to racial healing and justice in these turbulent times.


Friday, May 8, 5-6pm Pacific Time

All you need is a telephone 🙂


Edmundo Norte serves as the Dean of Intercultural and International Studies at De Anza College and is a national consultant on issues of diversity, equity, and transformative leadership, conducting workshops on “A Human Development Approach to Transforming Power, Perceptions, and Society,” an empathy-focused way of engaging in anti-racist, social justice work.

Marina Smerling is a collaborative trainer with Bay Area Nonviolent Communication and a former attorney who brings a long-standing interest in the interplay between shame, NVC, and white allyship to the conversation and movment for racial justice. Along with Edmundo, she is a member of the training team of the Nonviolent Leadership for Social Justice Retreat.

This free call is offered by the members of the training team of the annual Nonviolent Leadership for Social Justice Retreat. Join us July 19-26 for even more in-depth exploration of how we are impacted by dynamics of oppression and how we can work towards social justice for all.


Vulnerable Honesty – a TEDx Talk introducing Nonviolent Communication by Yoram Mozenson

I met Yoram at an NVC European Festival in France in 2010. What struck me about him was his constant checking-in and vulnerable, transparent communication.  And his humor.

I haven’t had a chance to see Yoram again but enjoyed staying in touch through the magic of Facebook and recently saw this TEDx Talk he had just been presenting. I watched it with my son (10) and we both loved the concise, straight-talk and humor again that Yoram brings as he introduces some key concepts of Nonviolent Communication. We hope you’ll enjoy it as much as we did!

On an added note, you can meet Yoram at the NY NVC Intensive this summer July 11-18, 2015.

Opportunities Developing for Growth Ahead

579120_442963605763833_193392465_nJust like nature in Spring, we are growing!!

The Peace Circle Center is receiving more and more requests to bring Nonviolent Communication, Restorative Practices, Leadership Skills, Anti-Bullying programs to groups, organizations, schools.

If this vision and mission is calling you, contact Mali to see about potential volunteering opportunities to be part of our growing impact in DC and around.

And if you know of groups, schools or workplaces that could be interested in our work, let us know as well! We are working mainly by word-of-mouth but are looking to expand next year.

We are seeking any volunteering of hearts, mind and spirit to keep the momentum going!

Contact Mali Parke with any ideas, energy or request:


Neuroscience Meets NVC in a Brand-New Workshop: “Parenting for Growing Brains and Growing Hearts

This Spring, a partnership that has been forming for a year, is budding and offering its first flower!  Meet Jessica Phillips-Silver, Ph.D. a neuroscientist, educator, musician and mother. Jessica does research on the musical brain at Georgetown University Medical Center in the department of neuroscience, and is an adjunct professor in the Faculty of Music at Georgetown University.

Jessica found me through a referral last year and at our first meeting, we realized that our approaches on parenting, neuroscience, child development, loving guidance and nurturing empowerment were like fish in water.

It wasn’t long after that we decided we could put our own hearts and brains to develop some workshops for parents here in the DC area.

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Introducing “Parenting for Growing Brains and Growing Hearts“, a 2.5h workshop in Washington, D.C.,  May 17, 2015. It is a first in a series of workshops that what we hope to offer you.

For the first time together, we will present Jessica’s framework for parenting geared towards three major aspects of healthy brain development and joyful childhood: the ability for self control, the ability to create, and a sense of moral character. We will discuss how the arts, the school and our parenting can shape our children’s brains.

With real-life examples and experiential exercises from Mali’s work in empowerment through compassion and restorative practices, we will address these three pillars of healthy child development, and learn insights to enhance our personal parenting toolbox and better support our children and our connection to them.

We hope you can join us, and invite a parent friend or two!  And we look forward to your feedback and interest to develop more parenting workshops this next 2015-2016 school year.

In joyful service,
Mali Parke

More about Jessica:

Jessica’s research has been featured in USA Today, Time Magazine, The New York Times, The Atlantic, Men’s Health, NPR, and Discovery Channel. Jessica is an international speaker and also teaches locally about the effects of music, the arts and early education on brain development. Jessica applies her skills to develop practices that integrate evidence from brain science into education and arts programming for hospitals, performing artists, schools and community centers. She bases her work on a set of core principles that underlie brain development, music training, self-regulation ability and creativity. Jessica’s framework outlines specific protocols that target the parenting of young children, the fundamentals of early education, and the use of music, movement and the arts in community development, preventative medicine and healing. Jessica is the owner of JPS Research & Education, LLC, and the founder of Growing Brains™.

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